Horses are very intelligent, if the horse likes You it will not only listen to You, it will protect You, so bring Him or Her carrots, brush Him or Her out, they really like that, spend time with the horse other than just riding time, in other words, befriend the horse.

Horses can tell how you are felling. If you have a horse trainer let them help you. I have had stubborn horses. If he does not want to listen you, back him back take a few steps and stop, than back him back. It works. A lot of trotting, and collection. Just working the horse every day. It will get better.Hope this helps.

You might want to make contact with a more experienced rider and horse and see if they will allow you to gain experience on THEIR horse. I found that riders are usually a generous people and want to encourage to share in the passion for riding. Find a local trainer or stable and make friends there, talk to others about your issue. You could put up a notice asking from help from local riders at your local feed store. Make sure that you are careful about who you interact with please, and if you are a youngster MAKE SURE TO INCLUDE YOUR PARENTS IN ANY RELATIONSHIP THAT YOU MAKE TRYING THIS METHOD.
I mean make sure your parents know about and check out the people or person you make contact with - ok? Safety first.
I usually suggest to beginners that they SHARE a horse with another person someone more experienced who would appreciate the help with chores, upkeep and exercising the horse. It'll remove the onus of bearing the whole thing by yourself and build your confidence. But you are already horsed-up so…check out some books about horsemanship written by a guy named Buck Brannaman - good common sense advice. Excellent writer. Check out Western Horseman magazines for articles by some of the "whisperer" types trainers that have been revolutionizing the discipline.
Dont give up - educate yourself - RESEARCH the answer, you'll be surprised about other things you'll learn along the way.
Good luck!

try and try again. if you are really suffering then ask the riding school for a different horse they should help you.
learn the basics and then you can start to tackle the difficult horse. but if you cant get another one then just ask the riding instructor what you can do to improve!
you are paying them and they are providing a service for you so you should ask as many questions as you want!!!!

find a riding teacher. Not to be mean because it is quite common but if the horse knows he can get away with it because you don't know how to control his behavior, he'll just keep doing it. This is where a riding instructor can help teach you to teach him.

take riding lessons, they also teach the horse to obey it's master.

If at all possible, try to find a more compliant horse to improve your skills, then move up to a more challenging ride.

If you're already at that point, where you know what to do, have a good seat and some confidence, then you need to work with someone who knows what the horse's issues are and how to make him comply.

I placed my beloved TWH gelding in a free-lease home with a friend who needed a horse because he needs a rider with a lot of leg to really get him going as he should. I have really short legs to begin with, add nerve damage and regardless of my experience, riding was very frustrating.

IF you are a beginner, I definitely recommend taking lessons before you ride the horse again. If the horse doesn't obey you and takes advantage of you, bad things can happen. You could potentially get hurt since the horse will not listen to your cues.

Lessons are extremely important for any new rider. They teach you the basics while you progress into new skills and get used to riding a horse that WILL obey you.

As for the horse, you might consider taking him with you to the lessons (if the instructor permits that) after a few weeks/months.

Of course, if you DO choose to ride your horse now….WEAR A HELMET!!! It may sound stupid, but it is SO important for you to be protected in case something were to happen.

Hope this helps!

I've broke horses for over 20 years and have participated in many rodeo events and in all my years in the saddle, I have only found 2 methods that really work.

1. Become one with the horse. This is a method used for hundreds maybe thousands of years by the spanish and the indians. Some refer to it as the "one day break."

2. Plowing, No it's not hooking your steed up to a plow and having it pull it. But, bridle and saddle as normal then tie extensions onto your reigns and running them through the stirrups and behind the horse. Now you're ready to plow! Taking the leads in hand and working the leads with loud spoken commands, make the horse do as said. How long it will take for the horse to respond solely on demand, depends on actually you and not the horse. You have to be confident in your actions of teaching the horse to do as you want.

Find a better place. In the area of experience, a riding instructor does not put two of you together that are inexperienced or stubborn. The horse you are learning from ought to know far more than you do…. the pro teaches the horse, in your case the pro ought to be the horse, and you the learner.

Maybe you aren't sending the right cues– Without watching you ride i can't help you much unless you be more specific. Get a trainer or an experienced person to help you out in person!

Don't beat yourself up over it, I'm assuming you are learning to ride on a riding school horse. If it is often used for beginners it knows the exact minimum amount of work it can get away with. Next time you ride start with a positive frame of mind, aim for a goal, say manage 10 strides of rising trot by the end of your lesson. (Don't aim to jump 4ft or anything to much.) Listen well to your instructor, and if you don't understand something ask. He/she will help you to become a better rider, the better you get the more the horse will respond and the more impressed your instructor will be. Don't forget to smile and breathe. With practice your riding will become smoother and more naturally, and with the right attitude you will be able to ride any horse. I'm quite a 'messy' rider, but I'll try anything my instructor throws at me and even if I don't get a horse going perfectly, I have a whole lot of fun trying!!

If I were you I'd probably start taking riding lessons froma barn and getting the experience you need then work with the horse. Then you'll know what you did wrong in the first place so that you can correct it! (more than half of a horses faults begin with the rider!)

try taking horse back riding lessons they teach you how to work on your skill and the horse will feel more confident to ride

welcome to the life. Some horses are just like that, so don't let it get you down too much. The trick is 'practice, practice, practice'. Work with the horse, you're pretty much trainer right now for the horse, so just work with it. Once you've improved your training skills, your riding skills will come on faster.

Please don't get discouraged. Maybe it will help if you shared more details about what the horse is doing and what you are doing to correct him.
I know this can be frustrating, but the key is to keep on riding, keep reading all you can, keep asking questions, and keep trying. Do you have a riding instructor? Is he/she not giving you the answers you need? If not, maybe you should try another.
Horses are smart and they WILL try you, and know when you are unskilled. However, there will come a day when you do master the skill needed to make this horse obey.
You aren't being too timid with him, are you? You must be firm. You can't hurt him by kicking too hard - a slight tap won't do. A light pull on a rein won't do.
Email me with more details if you wish.

Whenever I feel like I'm "hitting a wall" with my horse, and not going anywhere, I first of all get a riding lesson (so the instructor can point out my faults and how they are affecting my horse). If it doesnt seem to be helping, try riding a more experienced/responsive horse temporarily to learn how your riding affects him, then apply what you have learned to your horse